New song! My last dedication, and it's to Ragani. My love! *beams* It was a fight btwn Wish You Were Here by Incubus and Justin Timberlake's. Knowing Ragani's taste helped me decide, so there. Love you, bitch!

I'm employed. Starting on Monday. I am HAPPY. :-D

*beams herself out of the world*

Stumbled across a link to this article at Streetdirectory.com, of all places. Was quite interesting, so here. Brace yourself, it's got quite some length.

Is This The One?

Isn't that the million dollar question? How can I tell if this is the one? Is this one my soulmate? How will I know when I find the right one? There is no magic answer, but I can tell you what seems to work. I asked a psychic one time if a certain person was my soulmate. His answer, "If you have to ask, then he's not the one." He went on to explain that with soulmates no matter how good or bad a day you have together, you wake up in the morning knowing without a doubt that this is the one and you go to bed at night knowing without a doubt that this is the one. Nothing that happens in between those two points can change your mind.


Whenever I find happily married couples in their fifties or older who have been married for most of their lives to each other, I always ask them, "How did you know this was the one?" Every single one of the men answered the same way. They all said that the first time they laid eyes on the girl, they knew in that moment that they would eventually propose to her. For every one of those men it was love at first sight. "But why that one? What made you fall in love with that particular woman at first glance?" Each one answers differently, but they all have a vague unanswerable quality that the guy just knew she was it before they even knew what the girl's name was.


The women all said they thought the guy was nice enough, just okay, or a little goofy but not too bad. None of the women fell head over heels right away. The women were all living a happy upbeat life and were not really searching for a husband when the guy came along. That may be a big part of the mystique that these women created. They were not needy nor desperate. Truth be told all of the lifetime happily married women I know are very strong and independent, but loyal and loving women. None of them are nags nor codependent types.


The thing that all of these couples have in common is that the each one was relatively happy and mentally healthy going about their lives, their goals, and their dreams. All of them planned to some day fall in love and get married to one person for life but none were attached to a soulmate type concept or ideal. None of these people were sexually loose but they weren't complete prudes either. They chose not to sleep around because they had a strong sense of self-respect. Some had religious beliefs that added to the dynamic and others did not. All were of a mindset that you simply didn't whore around for the heck of it.


In all cases, the man chased the woman. You have to remember the deep underlying needs of the male and females of our species. The man must hunt and conquer. If she's too easy to catch, then there must be something wrong with her. Right or wrong, men have a very deep down need to 'win' the girl. They were all upbeat, bright, kind, loving women with full happy lives of their own. None of the women were pushovers and none of the women were easy to 'win.' It was always love at first sight on the man's end, but not on the woman's. The women were not cold and unapproachable, so the men were able to charm them and 'win' them over. All of these relationships had at least a two-year courtship and engagement period. Their eyes were wide open when they said, "I do."


Were they soulmates or just lucky? It depends on how you define soulmates. If you define a soulmate as your cosmic twin, then I'd say no these people were very different types that hooked up and stayed happy together for life. In one example, the woman was a devout Catholic and the husband was just sort of generic Christian. She didn't try to convert him and he respected her need to go to mass every Sunday. No, he didn't become any more or less of a Christian then he already was. They each respected the other's right to be who they were. Nobody tried to change anybody. Who they fell in love with is who they stayed in love with. In another example, he was from an extremely conservative religion and she was very lightly Christian. She completely changed her entire way of life to be with him. She gave up makeup, stylish haircuts, jewelry and sexy clothes to become almost Amish in her life with him. She never regretted it because he was everything to her and she came to agree with his family's religious beliefs. In none of the relationships were the couples a twin copy of the other. Yes, every one of those couples struggled in the first years of their marriage to find a balance between 'me' and 'we'. Every one of those couples had to learn to listen, to compromise, to be fully present in the moment, and to show their love in a way that resonated with the other. However, they all managed to live that elusive 'happily ever after' that the rest of us only dream of.


If you define a soulmate as the right one for you, the one you were meant to spend the rest of your life with, the one specially designed to create 'happily ever after' with you, then yes, they were soulmates. No matter how bad things got, these couples never ever contemplated divorce. They didn't stay together because of a vow before God. They stayed together because they couldn't fathom the concept of not loving the other one. Every morning they woke up knowing they were both in love. Every night they went to sleep knowing they were both in love.


Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow's Edge


The first time I met Jay, I nvr imagined that I'd be with him, let alone be marrying him later. He was like, a friend with a marvy(and at THAT time, witty :-p) sense of humour, very nice arms and eyebrows, and a good ass. And tho I did have a bit of a crush on him, I nvr thought we'd date; until a week later, WHAM; we were dating. And his proposal(if that's what it was. I merely pondered and agreed to a statement he made. man, was I easy!! wahaha) to be his girlfriend caught me by surprise. Yes, we did flirt here and there, but I nvr saw it coming, you get? Was ready for a comfy movie-watching experience with a friend when I suddenly felt his arm arnd me.

God. Still rmbr, I was like "oh my. what do we have here? is this normal? God, does he LIKE me?"

:-D

I entirely agree with this line from the article tho: They stayed together because they couldn't fathom the concept of not loving the other one. It makes so many things so much clearer.

:)

I got a hong bao! Yippee-doodles. :-D

Oh, and I've downloaded Harry Potter's 1-6, and am absolutely loving the first one so far. Nvr felt the need to read the books cos I'd managed to catch most of the movies. Jay told me I cld actually download books via Bit Torrent (he's my Bit.T guru) and so, to give it a try, I searched for Harry Potter. Downloaded it for fun cos it won't take long anyway, and now, I'm addicted! Got to mid Chapter 7 (The Sorting Hat, how I wanna try that on!) but had to stop cos The Mom was all naggety-yak-yak.

Must finish the book today or my head will burst! And that will be no good, considering my appointment with a prospective employer in the evening tmr.

I love ba kwa!

I've gotten my Kinks mp3 collection back! And since I made a change by downloading it album by album via Bit Torrent, I've got MORE songs than I initially had at the old comp!

YAAYYY ME!!!

Oh oh oh, and The Clash toooooooo!!! They all feel so damn gooood to listen to!!

WOWFRIGGINWEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!

*boogies bigtime!*



P.S: JAY's blogged!! Like finally!!

P.P.S: I can't seem to stop 'exclaiming'!!

P.P.P.S: !!!!!!!


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Most amusing! You guys probably wld have watched it, but I'm a YouTube freshie, so excuse me ah. Oh, I nvr bothered to find out much about her, but may she R.I.(drunken)P!!

P.P.P.P.S: Those damn exclaimation marks keep comin!!

New song, dedicated to Sindhu this time!

She's my heaven... She's a spark... Yeah Yeaah!

Hehehe!

'Tmr' has come a bit late, yah? Hehehe.

Valentine's Day was yesterday! I had a marvy, marvy time. :) Jay got me a Swarovski pendant, a red heart. It's adorable! Oh, and I did him an oil on canvas, a teeny mounted one. Will try get the pics of those from him later.

Dinner was at Safra Yishun, and the place was lovely! The caterers they hired were like, ok lah. The main courses were the best. The soup was terribly bland tho. But tasted good as I had eye candy to ogle at while I sipped at it. *winks at Jay*

This is what couples generally like to do, if you're not in the know. They 'action' about their own partner, even if it sounds nonsensical. Well at least, they do that the first few years of the relationship, I guess.

Oh, and there was a live band at dinner. Entertaining! Especially since one of the singers sang most of his songs like he was trying to get a really stubborn fart to come out. The speakers were way near the table we chose tho, and it was hard to hear each other. We got to speak lots after, so nvm. :-D

Thanks for such a lovely time, chellam. :-D I probably sound like Sindhu saying this, but this's the best Valentine's Day I've ever had. :-p

Jay's got the pictures! Am receiving them! Yay me!!

Ah, today was good too. Went to 2 agencies at International Plaza and the appointments had a few hours of space in between, so I whiled my time away reading at Secret Recipe. The apple cheese cake I had wasn't fantastic; apples could have been baked(if that's how they cooked it) longer cos they weren't soft enough. The cheese was quite light tho. Finished it last cos it was the best part (yumm yumm). Oh, the hot chocolate was good ah! If I weren't broke, I wld have gotten a vanilla latte to go, but oh well, next time. *sniffles*

After the last appointment (there was a japanese guy at the agency and the accent was adoooorable! 'are you buj(s)y on weekdays?'), it was time to meet the Jayster at Somerset. Ok, now I know which building is Centrepoint, so you shut up and don't action ah! Boyfriends. *grumbles* Aaaanyways, we made our way from there to Queensway Shopping Centre to look for this sort of Adidas shoes the Jay's been eyeing. The Watera series or some shit lah. BOOOORING, I tell you. All the shoe stores are the frikkin same. Different music, slightly different layout, marginal price differences, and varied ethnicity of shopkeepers, but it's ALL THE FRIKKIN SAME. Shoes lining the walls. That's it. God. I was ready to stick my earstud in my eye when we finally left.

Oh, and I'll probably be getting a tattoo there. An eye of Ra(most probably), with no embellishments, just primitive and black. $100! Not bad ah? By this year, I'll be tattooed. Wee! And Jay'll be getting his branded X too. Maybe, if we both wanna do it at the same place, we'll go together. Yay us!!

Picture time!



Jay's gift! Love it. Still wearing it too! :-D Dunno what those marks on my skin are tho. Hope they aren't age spots.




And this's the painting I did for Jay! Being oil-based, it's reflecting Jay's cam's flash lots. Looks better in real, but not a very good painting lah(DUH). Oh, those little ppl climbing the hill are Jay and me! We're rushing up the hill to watch the sunset, which is not visible to us as it is hidden by the hill.




Me giving him a freakish stare while having my appetisers. Hate having photographed when I'm eating actually. :-p




By dessert, I'm used to being captured, and so it shows.




Jay's very own piece of installation art.




He got bored waiting for me to finish up.




He insisted on taking one of me and the car, cos this'll probably be the last time I'll see it. he's getting a new car and can't stop talking abt it. :-D




Us!!

The rest of you attached AND single beings, I hope you had a marvy Valentine's Day too. I know I did! :)


P.S: Been meaning to post some photos up, and so, here they are. Might as well do it in one blogpost lah. I'm posting pics as a post script! Wahaha.



Nanio the freak. She's probably in India by now! Oh well, a month more. Can survive lah. :-p




This one cracks me up.




And this! Haha.




Me! I love this one. I'm vain. I know.

Right, that's it for now I guess. Got some more pics to put up, but later. Back aches!

Toodles!

Changed my blogskin! Do pardon me if it's too much of a glare for you. Keeps out the oldies with bad eyesight.

Tmr, I'll be mega-blogging. With pics!

Mom's screaming.

Toodles!

Sha showed me this song few days ago saying she's driving ppl mad with it. I was initially like oh... yeah, interesting. But now I'm all weeeeeee! It's grown on me too.

Note to the exceptionally stupid: Wait till my background song is done playing before you click play on the video image below. Or, press the stop button on your browser for my background sound to cease playing, and go on to play the video. Yes, like that. Good.

New song, and it's dedicated to Sashi-Sushi!

*does somersaults*

My phone's temporarily dead on account of having no battery power. I know for a fact that there'll be at least 3 calls missed, but what the heck. If there really is something I need to know, I can be enlightened later.

Sick of carrying a phone, actually. Being constantly contactable irritates the shit outta me sometimes. Then again, having a mobile line allows me a lot of conveniences that I currently cannot do without, especially since I'm on the lookout for a job. Besides, my mom'll freak if she can't nag at me whenever she feels the need to.

A whole week with no work. One whooole week; absolutely unemployed. Crappy-doodle-doo, I really need a job. Bah.

Deadline: End of next week. Realistic? I hope so.